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Post by ahasarah on Nov 4, 2007 22:06:20 GMT
I would love to give people some valuable advice but quite frankly I've been in a lengthy drought period and could be considered out of practice!
I currently have a major problem with finding random people really hot and not being in a position to talk to them. For example this weekend -
in schuh in Leeds, my sister is trying on shoes. The assistant is the cutest guy ever, maybe a bit short but he had lovely eyes and a gorgeous smile, and good arms! There was some smiling and a bit of inane chat whilst the shoes were tried on but that was it. I'm not sure it could even be flirting but I don't even live there and probably won't see him again and you can't give your number to someone in a shoe shop!
on the train home today - another very hot guy sat across the aisle from me. He had dark longish hair and a nathan style beard. He was watching a dvd. There were some glances exchanged - this could maybe be because he could feel my stalker style glare on him! But anyway, it might not have been anything but again I couldn't really say anything!
I never meet people I like when I'm out, it always seems to be in silly situations. I wonder if it's because I'm hanging out in the wrong places.....
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Post by alexa on Nov 4, 2007 22:20:49 GMT
^ the same thing happens to me. im just not good at initiating conversations because i always seem to be able to find a reason that it's not worth it or something.
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Post by ahasarah on Nov 4, 2007 22:24:23 GMT
Yeah, I know what you mean! I think if it was a different environmment then it wouldn't be so bad, but I'd feel like one of those slightly annoying people who randomly strike up conversations with you on the bus, in a queue etc! Because it'd probably turn out that they weren't even remotely interested in me!
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Post by peacebone on Nov 4, 2007 22:26:28 GMT
McCillian is back in CA, far FAR away
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Post by alexa on Nov 4, 2007 22:27:43 GMT
yeah exactly, like that's how it happens in movies and whatnot, but i feel like in real life it's a bit cliche. i don't know, but i guess im not like super talkative and flirty, like i'll talk and flirt, but probably not enough to make an impression on someone with just on small conversation.
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Post by kolkolkol on Nov 4, 2007 22:29:39 GMT
thanks for everyones advise ive decided that when i go to college tomorrow im gonna try and make more of an effort to talk to him if i get the chance and see how it goess from there!!!!!
ahasarah - i know exactly what you mean thats the same situation im kinda in but i see him every day and now im kinda obsessed lol!
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Post by ahasarah on Nov 4, 2007 22:34:13 GMT
Good luck! ^^ I'm sure it'll be fine! And it probably is best not to ask your friend for help if he likes you. Sounds harsh but jealousy can be a difficult thing!
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Post by ahasarah on Nov 4, 2007 22:43:36 GMT
sarah and alexa i'm TOTALLY with you, like the other day i saw the most hottest guy, but he was dressed up as Spiderman and I was dressed up as a pirate, wearing the most stupid clothes EVER ..so it was just like "walk away now before u make a prat of yourself" anyway...good luck kolkolkol! I bet you looked hot as a pirate! I'm ok at talking to guys if I'm out and get the feeling that they like me or are flirting a bit. It's just that I'd never say anything to someone at any other time really, like in the shop. Which is crap because there haven't been many instances of nice men on nights out recently
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Post by therunner on Nov 4, 2007 22:50:35 GMT
why do these things have to be so complicated?? Like why can’t we just say “I look like shit, u probably think I’m a weirdro, but I really fancy, wanna hook up?” hahahaha, if only.....
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Post by ahasarah on Nov 4, 2007 22:55:43 GMT
If only it was that easy! I'd have no problem doing that if I was pretty much guaranteed a yes, but that's never the case!
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Post by alexa on Nov 4, 2007 23:31:24 GMT
yeah i think everyone feels that way though. no one particularly enjoys rejection. hence my current situation....
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Post by mollysslightreturn on Nov 5, 2007 13:50:50 GMT
I on the other hand am 99% certain I wouldn't be rejected if I lept onto the guy I like right now, which sounds like I'm showing off. BUT - he has a girlfriend! It's at the stage where he texts me every day, just casual 'how are you' stuff. We've never addressed the fact we like each other apart from when he's hammered, when he did once alude to the fact that he's not been happy with his girlfriend for a while (yeah - that old chestnut), and he's been even less happy since we've been spending more time together. I won't be the 'other woman', but I can't ask him to dump his girlfriend so that we can have a date and decide if we want to be together. I'm so frustrated - it's hard being moral........and boring.
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Post by chichi on Nov 5, 2007 14:53:15 GMT
McCillian is back in CA, far FAR away What band is he a roadie for? Anyone famous? And here's my love life advice: Throw a Halloween party, dress up like a slutty nurse, get drunk and ATTACK! It worked for me!
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Post by ahasarah on Nov 5, 2007 17:24:39 GMT
McCillian is back in CA, far FAR away Sorry, I completely missed this post last night. Hope you're not too sad Surely he'll come back, how could he resist you?! I want to put a hug smiley here but we don't have one so kisses will have to do!
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Post by amycakes on Nov 5, 2007 18:54:03 GMT
i have the same problem. i was good friends with a guy i used to work with and it turns out the whole office thought we were having an affair. i got taken into the MD's office and everything. i was just being friendly i know.. it's so ridiculous... it's not like we're sitting in their laps and whispering into their ears! just being nice! by the way, amy, how goes that horrible amount of work you needed to get done? well i handed in 2 of my essays today which is a huge relief, but the relief of getting them finished last night made me violently ill. do you ever have that? when the pressure is lifted and you just feel physically shite for it? i have another 1500 word essay to write for next tues and i also have to do an online test on the holocaust on thurs, but it's more under control now. all this and i have to begin packing as i'm moving house in 2 1/2 weeks, and have next to no money!!!!!! (ta for asking though )
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Post by alexa on Nov 5, 2007 20:22:18 GMT
ughhhhh i hate when you think everythings going great one day and then the person like completely ignores you the next. asdfasdjfal;kdsjxzmhfiau. that's how i'm feeling.
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Post by Neon on Nov 5, 2007 21:28:16 GMT
ggrrr - i'm currently in the process of trying to get over a girl
the big problem is that i'm sure its my friend she really likes one minute - then the next i catch her staring a me from a distance, and then again 2 minutes later. I hate you stupid girls........
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Post by alexa on Nov 5, 2007 21:29:51 GMT
well you boys are just as troubling.
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Post by Neon on Nov 5, 2007 21:41:09 GMT
phhfft - this girl has guys jumping over killing each other to get to her, including my friend - as could most girls. I reckon girls have the upper hand somewhere at this age - probably more control of the hormones of something like that - and can drive boys crazy pretty easily. Girls have the upper hand - admit it
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Post by alexa on Nov 5, 2007 21:43:08 GMT
maybe that girl. i wish i had the upper hand, guys can drive girls pretty crazy too. case and point - myself.
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